| How to Hug a Porcupine: Dealing With Toxic & Difficult to Love Personalities |  | Author: John L. Lund
Publisher: Granite Pub & Distribution
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Avg. Customer Rating:  9 reviews
Sales Rank: 34481
Media: Paperback
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Dimensions (in): 8.9 x 6 x 0.9
ISBN: 1891114344
Dewey Decimal Number: 158
EAN: 9781891114342
ASIN: 1891114344
Publication Date: August 1999
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Condition: Brand new book! Never been read! ; Dr. Lund offers sound advice in dealing with those individuals who seem difficult to be around. Answers to such questions as: What is an emotional porcupine? Is it a porcupine or a muskrat? What if I married a porcupine? Can I pluck the quills from a porcupine? And the most frightening question of all "What if I am a porcupine? All this and more in this very sharp read. ; 6" x 9"; 304 pages
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This changed my marriage December 6, 2007
2 out of 2 found this review helpful
It's been four years since I read, studied and applied the concepts in this book. My 'porcupine' did not read the book and I didn't discuss anything I learned with him. I was amazed that the changes I made and the loving respectful actions I learned to take eventually virtually eliminated behaviors in him I was sure would never change. Our relationship changed from being frequently painful to being mostly congenial. I've never seen anything remotely similar to this described anywhere else. This goes beyond helping with dealing with criticism into a handbook for dealing with and eliminating verbally abusive behaviors, as well as defining when and how to leave if that is needed.
I highly recommend this book to anyone dealing with those who are painful to interact with, as well as those who might suspect they are hard to deal with.
 Ouch! It's kinda painful to read this book! March 7, 2006
17 out of 17 found this review helpful
I read this book, thinking I had people in my life that would fit the description of porcupines, and that I could pick up a few pointers on how to handle them. Imagine my horror and dismay when I discovered that I'M a porcupine!!! That is, I have a goodly number of the characteristics that the author uses to define porcupine behavior. I was stunned to see that many qualities that I saw in myself as being "helpful" to people are in fact toxic and painful. When I looked at these traits from the point of view of "would I want someone to treat ME that way?" the answer was a definite "No." *sigh* Thus, reading the book became one of the most painful experiences of my life. Now I have to say that I think that I'm one of the nicest porcupines you'll ever meet. Nonetheless, I saw traits in myself that need to be changed. Mr. Lund gives you steps to take if you want to eliminate these behaviors, and it has been my daunting task to work on this ever since. It took me about three years (!!!!! NO, I'm not kidding) to complete the assignment of going through one twenty-four day without saying anything negative at all. Try it before you roll your eyeballs into next week. It's (MUCH) harder than you think. I'm not sure a truly toxic person could take this book. But it does give good strategy suggestions for protecting yourself from such people.
All I can say is good luck.
Great Find August 19, 2005
5 out of 5 found this review helpful
This book is great when dealing with all kinds of personalities. But what I liked most was being able to identify and cope with the different types. And yes even finding that there were tough to love spots in my reflection. Really a good book for relating to parents, children, spouses and self and anyone you have a close working relationship with.
How to Hug a Porcupine: Dealing with Toxic & Difficult to Love Personalities July 10, 2005
4 out of 5 found this review helpful
This book is a must read for anyone who is in a relationship, whether it be parent, child, friend, neighbor, spouse, ------->in other words EVERYONE could benefit greatly from reading this book.
Toxic Mother In Law 101 July 5, 2005
6 out of 7 found this review helpful
I read this book to help me deal with my very toxic MIL and it has helped me immensely! I highly recommend it for anyone seeking sanity from a highly critical or "toxic" person in your life. John's humor and down-to-earth approach makes this book very easy and enjoyable to read.
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